Writing songs with my friend Michael

This, so far, is the best tribute I’ve read about Michael Jackson. It appeared in The Huffington Postmichael_jackson_calendar_2002.

by Gotham Chopra

When I was in my second year of college living on campus (at Columbia in NYC) with 4 suite mates, every time the phone rang, there was a race to answer it. Everyone wanted to be the guy to hear the “hello” on the other side just in case it was my friend Michael Jackson calling.

Most of those days, Michael was holed up on top of the Four Seasons, roughly 60 blocks away from where I lived on the Upper West Side of Manhattan just near Harlem. I’d happily drift downtown, gain clearance from security downstairs who knew I was allowed free access to Michael’s suite, take the elevator all the way up and start ordering room service and watch movies on Mike’s tab.

Eventually, Michael and I would get down to work. He was working on a new album and asked me to help him write lyrics for songs. It was an informal relationship - I’d wander downtown with a backpack full of dictionaries, and thesauri, and rhyming books. Michael would hum songs and talk about what he wanted to say with the song and we’d try and marry our skillsets and come up with something. We came up with great stuff. Michael swore me to secrecy those days. I happily complied.

After we were done with those sessions - they’d usually go until about 2 AM or so - Michael would wander into the bathroom and come out with a sack he’d pulled out from under the toilet. In it, he kept several thousands of dollars. He’d ask me how much I wanted. I just sort of shrugged and he’d hand me a couple of thousand dollars. Soon, I’d be packing my dictionaries and thesauri and rhyming books in my backpack, calling my friends and telling them to meet me downtown. Within an hour, we’d be at Flashdancers “making it rain.”

Michael was always envious when I told him about my adventures with my friends. More than a few times, he’d get dressed up - dawning some sort of quasi-disguise - preparing to go with me, only to back down at the last minute or be held back by his security who would shake their heads and plainly say no to his misguided ambitions. Instead, he’d pour himself a tall glass of orange juice and settle in for the night to watch an old movie on TV, telling me to spend a few extra bucks for him. I happily complied.

My friendship with Michael was very special to me, and I like to think it was the same for him. Over the last few years, it always felt awkward to explain the origins of our friendship - that I met him initially when I was fifteen-years-old and that we instantly hit it off. I’d spend days at his Neverland Ranch, my sister, cousins, or other friends joining us in fantastical stretches filled with candy, arcade rides, late night movies and the absolute best chocolate chip cookies of all times. Likewise he’d visit our house in Massachusetts (he was very close to my father as well) where he’d sleep in the guest room. My mom got a great kick out of the fact that every morning Michael stayed, he’d try to make the bed (very badly) and offer to cook breakfast (very badly). Then when I was about 17, Michael invited me on the road with him - he was heading out to Europe on the biggest rock concert at the time (Dangerous tour) and wanted company. I begged and pleaded with my parents to let me go and they eventually said yes. Not a bad way to spend your summer vacation between junior and senior year of High School.

Over the years, as Michael faced his scandals, I often reflected on my own experiences with him as a teenager. People would ask me if I had endured anything strange or awkward with him. I’d answer truthfully that in all of my years with him, in every single moment, Michael was nothing but dignified and appropriate, never once doing anything that would be deemed scandalous with me. It was really that simple.

Check that. Back to those college days. One night he did call me in a panic. He had just gotten married to Lisa Marie Presley and needed advice - sex advice. He was incredibly nervous and said that he wanted to make sure that Lisa was impressed with his “moves.” He asked me if I had any advice. I answered with one word: “foreplay.”

“Really?” He answered. “Girls really like that?”

Over the last few years, Michael’s and my relationship evolved and matured greatly too. We both became fathers and that was the centerpiece of our most recent conversations the last few months. Returning the favor from my days as his “lyrical advisor,” he’s the one who monikered my half-Indian, half-Chinese son “The Chindian” which little Krishu Chen Xing Hua Chopra will now forever go by. We’d talk about how great it would be for our kids to grow up together, become as good friends as us, and set the world on fire. Michael admired the fact that I was able to find a wife, keep a wife, and gain her trust. I’d joke it was all about the foreplay! When his daughter Paris befell an accident a few years ago, he called my wife Candice (a physician) pleading for us to come to his house to check her out.

We did - Paris had fallen from a tree and cut herself deeply beneath the eye. Michael was devastated and confessed to me that he felt like the world’s worst father. I calmed him as Candice helped Paris get up from the bed where she lay so we could take her to the Emergency room to get some simple stitches. When I advised Michael of the plan, he pulled me into the bathroom, pulled a sack filled with thousands of dollars from beneath the toilet and asked me how much I needed for the Emergency room.

I shook my head: “this one’s on me.”

RIP in peace my friend.

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Korean cooking chronicles: it’s not only kimchi

Can’t remember when Korean food overtook Japanese as my favorite Asian cuisine, but I do crave for it now more than the other. There are a lot of Korean restaurants in Manila, but the problem is I always find it hard to tag along my friends there. You see, everybody likes dimsum but not everyone acquires the taste for kimchi. Moreover, the average you can spend for a meal by your lonesome in a Korean resto is P300 – quite expensive for an office worker, tee hee. So I guessed the next best thing was to figure out how to cook their cuisine.

The first sensible thing to do is to visit the Korean grocery. Most of the ingredients just can’t be found anywhere. Am lucky that I work in the tourist district of Ermita because there are a lot of stores here. I found out too that there are a lot of quality shops in Paranaque, but that’s for another post:D

Easily, the most common perception is that Korean food is uber-spicy – which is true in some aspects. But the popular bulgogi certainly is not. And so is this luscious piece of steak which is my own version of beef kalbi (or galbi). The beef ribs that was supposed to be used for this dish was at an astronomical P800 per kilo, so I substituted with T-bone steak instead. The meat was marinated overnight in cooking wine and other ingredients, then topped with crushed Korean pear for greater tenderness and flavor. The result was a T-bone Kalbi that was bordering on deliciously salty and sweet. It definitely made our Sunday lunch a mouth-watering one!

Beef Kalbi

Kimchi chigae is another popular Korean dish. I even like the one where they put slices of Spam in it. This one I made uses canned tuna, and the oil or brine is even added to the soup to give it even more flavor. For this dish, you need kimchi (of course), slices of soft tofu, the broth from the kimchi, red pepper powder and several more slices of pepper. When you want an alternative to healthy eating, this is it. Caution: uber-hot!!!!

Home cooking - ChamChi KimChi Jjigae

This kimchi ramen might as well be my comfort food for the rainy season. Nothing like spicy soup to beat the doldrums that usually goes with foul weather. This is easy to make too. Just buy a pack of instant Korean noodles (like the Nong Shim Brand), add kimchi and the flavorings that go with the noodle pack to boiling water, then top with egg, green onion and nori or dried seaweed, if desired ;)
Kimchi Ramen

If you’re a noodle lover like me, the chapchae should be a welcome addition to the noodle varieties you’re already enjoying. I like this one because it tastes different from the Chinese or Filipino pancit we are accustomed to. You can add beef, but if you want to be more vegetarian, the spinach, mushrooms and sweet pepper should do just fine. Like other Korean dishes, this one also borders on salty and sweet because a little salt and sugar are added to the mix. Chap chae is love <3

Chapchae

I will try to make a part 2 of this Korean cooking series. Of course, I will try to post the recipes in my other food blog. The only problem is, I haven’t updated that blog in ages :D The gist of the matter is that Korean cookery is fairly easy and tasty too. No need to spend a lot of money too since you can enjoy it at home. You just probably have to labor in the kitchen for their banchan or assortment of appetizers. Even then, good ol’ kimchi will do ;)

Jal-meok-kket-sseum-ni-da!

Good news, sad news

Even as we applauded this year’s awardees of the Jaime V. Ongpin Excellence in Journalism , we were dismayed to hear that this may be the last awards for investigative and explanatory reports.

But we are glad to know that the Canadian government will continue with its Marshall McLuhan fellowship that is usually given to the top prize winner.

Founded in memory of Canadian media guru, Marshall Mc Luhan (“The medium is the message” and “The global village”) the fellowship sends the journalist on a two-week speaking tour of Canada and arranges speaking engagements in the Philippines.

We have our own criticisms of the screening by CMFR of finalists the past years (this may sound ungrateful being one of the awardees in1998) but there is no dispute that it is the most prestigious award in the Philippine journalism.

Melinda Q. de Jesus, executive director of the Center for Media Freedom and Responsibility, the administrative and technical secretariat of the JVOAEJ, said during the awarding ceremonies last Thursday that they will re-evaluate the JVOAEJ program that has seen a number of innovations since its start in 1990.

De Jesus mentioned problems in funding which organizations supported foreign institutions face nowadays due to the global financial crisis. We imagine that competition for grants from the usual sources of in the United States and Europe must have become very stiff.

But what De Jesus underscored was the lack of growth in field of investigative reporting. She said there is a wide gap in the quality of investigative reports between the few excellent pieces and the rest of articles that have seen print in recent years,

Vergel Santos, CMFR trustee, said the few investigative pieces worthy of awards are done by the same people that have been winning the competition every year. He said the awards may have inspired many journalists but since their work don’t make the grade with JVOAEJ, they stop aspiring for it.

To close the gap, Santos said, “This would require skills training.”

Established in 1990 in order of the businessman who believed in the power of the press to advance good governance and promote democracy, the JVOAEJ aims to encourage the practice of in-depth reporting and the values of integrity and journalism ethics. Initially the awards were limited to investigative reports that exposes truths that the public should know. Later,the awards included explanatory reports “to encourage journalists to explain a phenomenon, a program or process, clarifying issues and developments reflected in the news.”

“These two kinds of reporting help create an informed without which there can be no real democracy,” CMFR said.

Since 2008, the JVOAEJ has applied a thematic focus in selection, narrowing the evaluation to articles on the most urgent and most important issues of the year: governance and corruption, human rights, and the environment. This year, the judges added a new themes: financial and economic crisis.

The winners were VERA Files’ “Quedancor swine program another fertilizer scam” by Diosa Labiste, Luz Rimban and Yvonne Chua and “Aid inflow sparks scandals for GMA, debt woes for RP” by Roel Landingin of the Philippine Center for Investigative Journalism.

Each received a plaque of distinction and a cash prize of P70,000. The Mc Luhan fellowship was awarded to Labiste, the first community journalist (Iloilo) , to win it.

Three articles won a plaque of merit and a cash prize of P25,000: A policy of betrayal by Miriam Grace Go of abs-cbnNEWS.com/Newsbreak; Squatters and the City by Cherry Ann T. Lim and Rene H. Martel of Sun.Star Cebu; and “Less than 10 people in plot, 5 core, 5 others ‘in the know’ by Fe Zamora of the Philippine Daily Inquirer.

The finalists , who won for the authors a plaque and a cash prize of P10,000 were “Political Killings not official but an unintended policy” by Nikko Dizon, Jocelyn R. Uy and Leila B. Salaverria of the Philippine Daily Inquirer;US subprime crisis:why we should worry by Des Ferriols by The Philippine Star; and “The many faces of bribery by Aries Rufo of abs-cbnNEWS.com/Newsbreak.

The JVOAEJ also gave out two plaques of special mention to the Philippine Daily Inquirer for “The NBN-ZTE controversy report” and Newsbreak for “The big dig.”

Despite De Jesus’ notice, we still fervently hope the Jaime V. Ongpin’s tradition of excellence in journalism will continue next year and the following years.

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