How to be Confident

Have you ever experienced sitting in front of scary HR people and , heck, Techy people that you asked yourself what the heck am I doing here, maybe I should go.

One of the things I fear most during job hunting is the interview part where you get to meet and talk with those psycho HR people. Well, it’s difficult for me because it’s one of my weaknesses. But how do I overcome it.

Here’s a list of some things I usually do and think whenever I’m out for an interview

Relax. Well, there are somethings you need to do to feel relaxed. Think of the interview as nothing. You go out there and talk to them as if there’s nothing to worry. Remember, you have nothing to lose everytime you sell yourself, but you lose when you don’t even try.

Look them straight in the eye. Though it feels creepy to look in the eye of someone you don’t know, it’s a good way of showing that you are confident of what you are saying. Just like what happened during my past job interview. The HR girl kept on talking and we looked in to each others eye but I know that she somehow feel like she lost because everytime I talk and look in her eyes, she’d look somewhere as if she’s the interviewee.

Be yourself. I only realize lately that I am trying to be someone I am not. I mean, they are interviewing us to get to know us. Yes we are there to impress them but the thing is you can impress them by showing the real you.

But then again, it is always important to not be over confident. Just be yourself. Sell yourself honestly. But don’t show too much.

Just an update

It’s been almost a month since I last updated this blog. It’s just that I’m too lazy too blog or I have nothing to blog about.

Anyway, I’ve been busy for the past few weeks trying to get a job. Been through a series of exams and interviews but no job offers yet. But then again, there’s still a plenty of time.

I’ve been going out a lot with my friends lately, one of the reason why I wanted to go back here in the Philippines. The company of my friends makes me feel that I’m existing and it lessens the pressure and stress that I’m going through.

I don’t know when I’ll be posting an interesting post but I assure you I’ll try my best to come up with a good post. For now, I’ll go out and try to open up my mind and hopefully extract some of my creative juices.

Ciao!

Goodbye and say Hello

Most of us had experienced leaving someone or being left behind by someone. We say good bye every time we go. But where is good in good bye?

The first time I had ever felt that was when I graduated Grade school. I felt something that I couldn’t even explain. The feeling of leaving your friends since first grade just sucks. Six years of childish acts, puppy loves, and everything crazy will just vanish in that way. I was scared that time. I really don’t know what is waiting for me out there.

My family moved here in the Kingdom when I was 12, an incoming freshman High School. Coming from a Catholic School in a province, transferring to a lot different school with students who came from different parts of the Philippines is just crazy. But then, as time passes by, I met a lot of friends, Friends whom I have learned to love and treat as a brother and sister.

Four years after, we were standing in our school grounds. You can see everyone with the smile on their face. But as the graduation ends, tears falls down. I can still see myself hugging everyone wishing that night would not end.

After graduation, I went back to the Philippines to study for college. Well, most of my batch mates did the same but others migrated to North America. During college, I met new friends. But four years after, we parted ways and lived our own lives.

Four months ago, I went here in Saudi. Well, as usual, I met friends. But days from now I will be saying good bye again. And I will surely miss everything here. But to be honest, I am scared. I’m afraid to face the reality that I might not see these friends I’ve found.

Now what? Where is the good in good bye?

Life is a continuous process. People come and go. I guess, what’s good in good bye is the fact that we meet new people who would somehow neutralize the sadness and whatever feelings we had when we said good bye. It’s good because we are welcoming new people who would become part of our life. It is really true that good bye is not the end; it is a beginning of something.

Happy Valentine’s Day: How to celebrate as a Single

Valentine’s Day is not just for lovers and couples, it’s for everyone.

I haven’t dated someone for valentine ever since. It’s just that I’m busy or I’m not interested on it. Here’s how I celebrate Valentine’s Day as a single.

Go out with your friends. We always thought that v-day is for couples but it is not. Go out with your friends and have fun with them. But try to ask them first if they have a date or something. It is fun. And while you are out with friends, try to think of a way that would make you happy.

Do not play love songs. It will not make you smile; it will just ruin your day. Instead, play the loudest playlist you have.

Do not watch romantic films. It’s just not the right time to watch those kinds of movies. Watch horror films instead. If you want, you can watch it with someone.

Date your loved ones. Date your parent (mom or dad), your sibling or your best friend. Come on, not everyone has a date during valentine and they are going to love it when you ask them out. Haven’t tried it though, but I am going to try it when I’m not broke.

Go to charity institutions. Give love to those who need love and these people really need it.

Love is Patient. Just go out with your normal life. Someone is meant for each of us, we just have to wait.

Again, Valentine’s is not for lovers, it’s for everyone. It’s about giving love unconditionally.

Building Friendship with our Parents

The reason why I started blogging is for me to express my feelings. To let others, except my family, know what’s going on and what’s happening with my life. The feeling of having online friends giving advices and comments feels good. I appreciate them, of course. But I always ask myself, “what if I never got the chance to go online again? How am I going to express what’s inside of me?” This brought me to realization that, after all, it is still best to talk to your family, especially our Parents.

I know a lot of us are afraid or just not comfortable to talk to our family, especially our not-so-cool parents. Here are some ways I did to persuade my parents to buy me a car, kidding!

Be friends with them. I know this is so difficult but we should. We should be friends with them so they would buy us nice cars and useless stuff. Why friends? A friend listens every time we rant and talk about non sense stuff. After talking and crying like baby, they will laugh at us and we all start laughing. So treat your parents as your friends, and you will find them cool and that’s the time you ask them to buy you a car.

Always Smile. Pretend to be happy even if they won’t buy you a car. Smile as if you understand everything. Whenever you smile, your parents would feel happy. They’d ask why you are smiling and that’s the point where you can tell them what you want and instead of car, ask them to buy you chocolates and chips. Instead of frowning, as if you’re some kind of a loser, Smile and tell them what’s bothering you.

Give them a hint that you wanted to talk to them. How? Well, I always wanted to go back in the Philippines but I can’t, so I gave them a hint. Example – “hey ma, you know what, there are a lot of programmer trainee positions advertised on the internet.” Expect them to respond something like this –“Really? Ok I’ll get you the last flight tonight. “

Do not take my advice. Cross out those things I’ve just listed. Just talk to them in a nice way. I remember my father telling me that he wanted to talk to me as if we are best friends. So I thought that, maybe, they are all the same. They wanted to be friends with us just like how we wanted to be friends with them. Remember that they are still our parents, so we should respect them every time we talk.

Just talk, it won’t hurt anything.